Admit One

[VaeVictis]

Well, this quickly went into the ''YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND CAUSE YOU'RE MALE'' place I was expecting it to go.

Bridge is spot on, same with Kreekakon. Just because guys have had x and y doesn't mean that every single man is part of the oppressive group.

And funny thing about male privileges is that we expect men to be strong, to put everyone else before themselves and all that.

I honestly don't want to discuss this anymore if such arguments are going to be thrown around. Now more than ever I recommend people to see the videos Pahdee linked, cause wow.

Look, when you are assaulted day in and day about how imperfect your body is, then you'll understand.
When, you get blamed for being cat called and not 'taking it as a compliment', then you'll understand.
When you you get threatened with rape by standing up for yourself, then you'll understand.
When you have someone grab and try to corner and kiss you and then have everyone around you blame it on the sweater you're wearing, then you'll get it.
When your co-worker graphically describes sex with a virgin and tells you how housework is 'women's work', then you'll understand.
When you have to schedule your workout around when you're less likely to be attacked, then you'll understand.
I'm not accusing anyone here, but what I'm saying is that, being male, these things are much less likely to happen to you.

Just because you're not outwardly expressing these things, doesn't mean you don't accidentally let slip some long-ingrained, socially acceptable stuff that can actually be hurtful.

I can't tell a person of color that 'I feel bad, and I understand racial profiling sucks, blah, blah, blah' because I'm not likely to have that problem. I haven't experienced it. It's the same thing for most men trying to tell women how that what they experienced sucks. It means nothing unless actions and attitudes back it up in support.